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been looking at these also and find that it is very similar to non-violent communication


Thanks, Phil - after reviewing the Wikpedia entry for non-violent communication, I share your judgement that these are very similar practices. For [local] reference, here's what Wikipedia has to say:

Nonviolent communication (NVC) is a process developed by Marshall Rosenberg and others which people use to communicate with greater compassion and clarity. It focuses on two things: empathy โ€” listening with deep compassion, and honest self-expression โ€” exposing what matters to oneself in a way that's likely to inspire compassion in others. Formal NVC self-expression includes four elements: observations (distinguished from interpretations/evaluations), feelings (emotions separate from thoughts), needs (deep motives) and requests (clear, present, doable and without demand).

Those who use Nonviolent Communication (also called "Compassionate Communication") describe all actions as motivated by an attempt to get human needs met. However, in meeting those needs, they seek to avoid the use of fear, guilt, shame, blame, coercion or threats. The ideal of NVC is to get one's own needs met while also meeting others' needs. A key principle of Nonviolent Communication that supports this is the capacity to express oneself without use of good/bad, right/wrong judgment, hence the emphasis on expressing feelings and needs, instead of criticisms or judgments.


Hey Phil, could you send me a link where I can take a personality assessment?
Please email me back at

Joe McCarthy

Terry: there are lots of variations of online personality assessments. Here's a link to the Keisey Temperament Sorter, which is the one I took:


I could be wrong, but it was my understanding that the processes used by MKP were not to be shared with the uninitiated and were the IP of MKP. I'm newly initiated so there is plenty of room for me being wrong, but that's what I read in the manuals I have.
Interestingly I was googling the same thing and got your post, because I've used a similar process taught to me by a marriage counselor several years ago.

Joe McCarthy

Aaron: thanks for raising this issue - it represents an edge that I work and play with from time to time.

In my judgment, one of the goals of MKP is for men to integrate and share our insights and experiences with those outside of the circles. My understanding of our confidentiality agreements is that we want to avoid diminishing the power of the New Warrior Training Adventure (NWTA) for any man, as part of that power derives from the unexpected nature of some of the activities. I'm not aware of any intellectual property constraints, and in fact, never thought of that dimension before. But if MKP does want men to share the wealth of our insights and experiences through our training and participation in the organization, then I would tend to err on the side of openness, except where to do so would violate confidentiality agreements, regarding the NWTA itself, or any thoughts, judgments, feelings or wants shared by any individual man in the context of any MKP circle

FWIW, when I attended an Integration Group (I-Group) regularly, we often invited uninitiated men to join us, and we were judicious in not discussing or practicing any of the NWTA processes that might violate our confidentiality agreement. We regularly practiced clearings in the presence of non-initiated men, and I know other men often reported their successful practice of these steps outside of the I-Group setting. I judge that sharing these steps on the blog is not a violation of confidentiality.

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